An overdue blog post - post hospital... in a swirling abyss of exhaustion

Jason Here - this post will be rather incoherent but then again, so are both Becca and I right now...

After a lovely 14 day stay at the Modesto Sutter Home Memorial Hospital Spa and Retreat, our 5 year old trooper without the helmet came home.  His ruptured appendix has been cut away and patched, new spackle, some calking, some bailing twine, and a little duct tape and he is as good as new.  Problem is, his parents aged about 50 years in the ordeal...  

James is home, we are checking his temperature 3-5 times per day and no fever yet.  If he has a fever we will go back to the hospital for another lovely stay of undetermined length.  You see, he has an unknown fluid pocket left in his belly.  They believe that it is either Pus from an infection or fluid left from the flushing of the site where his fluid drain was.  They took 2 CT scans and radiology just couldn't tell.  He has an appetite and was acting energetic and normal.  The regular course of action would be to take him off all the antibiotics and see if he develops a fever.  Why stay at the hospital for that?  

James has a CT scan monday and a follow up appointment with the surgeon on tuesday.  No fevers yet and he is still acting normal... all good signs... probably just saline in his belly.... but we still are not quite "off guard".

This experience has taught us amazing lessons:

• Everyone thinks that bad things happen to someone else's child or family... never to your own... it's a sense of false security that took us by surprise.
• We have a great family, great friends, and a great church who loves us... a great reminder.
• We must continue to act on our desire to serve others.  We were blessed with a large group of people serving us.  Betty came down to  help with Gabby for a few days, we had a 2 weeks of solid meals from our church friends and family.  My boss gave me great flexibility in scheduling to be able to accomodate both the hospital and work.  Both of our cell phones regularly went dead from phone calls from family and friends calling to check on us, let us vent, cry, and otherwise bloviate.  Nobody had to do any of those things and yet they did.  It would be wrong not to return the favor to others.
• We have learned to re-invest in our nuclear family.  We have been living on a shoe-string budget trying to get out of debt.  Time to take a break from that for a few months, build up some savings, and re-prioritize our spending... more family outings and fun, more investment in good times, less shoestring by choice.  I have been blessed with a good paying job... we are going to have some fun even if it means putting of the paying of our debt a few months... we might even buy matching furniture or something...

I am also blessed with great insurance.  We have 100% coverage for everything, no copays, nothing out of pocket for anything after a $3600 deductible.  My company supplies the $3600 in an HSA account for us... so for the rest of the year, we have no medical expenses.

Even if the company didn't provide the deductible, for about $550 per month (pd by employer), the $3600 is a reasonable deductible for a high deductible insurance plan.  The tradeoff would be worth it and we would have paid the deductible and been fine...  what a blessing...

So we are home, no complications yet other than me going blind and rebecca sleeping all the time...  will update again soon...  zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

So remember boys and girls....  "I'd rather have a bottle in front of me than a frontal lobotomy"